1. Check Your Thoughts. Surely you’ve heard about positive thinking but have you heard about the importance of applying this to yourself. Have you ever stopped to think about how you think about yourself? If you hold negative thoughts about yourself on a regular basis you won’t be able to build your confidence. Think positive self-thoughts to start on the road to building lasting self-confidence.
2. Forgive and Forget. Everyone messes up in life but self-forgiveness is one of the toughest things to do. You don’t have to live in regret for mistakes you’ve made for the rest of your life. Forgive yourself and do what you can to make what was wrong, right again. Then move on and turn what happened into a life lesson that lets you know what not to do again. Forget about the mistake but remember the lesson learned.
3. Respect Your Purpose. Everyone is born with a purpose in life. That means you have something to share with the world. The part of the world you might affect could be just one other person; but that is still necessary to do. Stop worrying just about yourself and your own position. Think about the bigger picture of why you’re here and your confidence will start to grow again because you’re focused on helping others.
4. Enhance Your Image. Do you have concerns about your appearance? Does how you look steal your confidence away? Then do something about your image. Go to a store and ask for help in selecting styles that are fashionable and look good on you. You don’t have to spend a lot of money on an outfit; just find out your style. You can find pieces for a wardrobe in different places even consignment or thrift stores to start. Learn to select quality, style and a good fit. That’s a great start to building a more confident image.
5. Don’t Take it Personally. Things happen that might hurt your feelings; but it’s important to not take things personally all of the time. Some things are going to occur if you’re around or not. You might feel slighted but if you hadn’t been there, would the same thing have happened to someone else? If so, don’t take the situation personally. Learning that it’s not always about you is important to be able to get over problems and move on to the next life event.
6. Say “No” to a Bad Day. Don’t let other people spoil your day. When you let others have control over whether or not you will have a good day, you give them the power over your emotions. For instance, what if a person walks into your workplace in a bad mood? That’s not your problem unless you allow that person to affect your mood. Don’t let that person’s attitude provoke you into saying or doing something you’ll regret. Just think in a positive way and consider how you can deal with the situation in a way that will make things better for everyone involved.
7. Keep Going. Sure things get tough. That’s a part of life. In fact, it is true that the more you learn to deal with in life the more you will face even more difficult issues. This increases your skills, life lessons and abilities to take a lead in decision making and in your life. You can only get to this level if you keep going and don’t give up with the going gets tough. Get the mentoring you need to go through tough times. Find out how others have made hard decisions and seek the wisdom of mentors to help you grow. Just keep going until you reach your goals and you will find that you have the confidence to succeed.
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